Card: New Love – from The Romance Angels Oracle Cards by Doreen Virtue.
“The Romance Angels have sent you this card like a Valentine greeting, signaling the introduction of someone new into your love life! Perhaps you’ve recently met this person and your interest was piqued. This card validates that your connection was mutual and real. It is safe for you to explore it, and the Romance Angels will guide your actions accordingly.“
Message from Erin: I am often surprised by the cards that I’m guided to choose for the weekly reading. The faeries are always pushing me in interesting directions. The guidance is always spot on, but every once in a while I’m not in the flow and I experience some resistance to the card that gets selected. Today’s card is a bit challenging, but I know and trust that this is the message for the week.
What is new love? Yes, it can be the excitement of meeting someone new and falling in love. I have been fortunate to experience this feeling a few times in my life. What a thrill! What a rush! New love can also meeting a new person that you connect with on a deep soulful level. I have also been blessed with connecting with members of my soul family in this lifetime. The feeling is like coming home to a place you didn’t know you were missing. New love can also be that moment when you discover something about yourself that you think is quite remarkable and you feel a genuine fondness towards yourself you never had before. I have also been blessed in this life with finding a true love for myself.
I honestly find myself in a place in my life that I never knew I could possibly be. I have not been in a romantic relationship for over eight years now, and I have gone through many phases on this journey alone. At first I was hurt and felt that there was something wrong with me. I was in this state for a few years. I thought a romantic partner would make me whole and complete me somehow. Then I started to realize slowly over time that there wasn’t anything wrong with me.
Over the last few years I’ve gone through some surprising stages of being alone. I’ve learned so much about myself and I’ve discovered that my relationship with me has become the most important relationship I’ll have in this life. When I was a young woman I didn’t have any love for myself at all, and now I can say that so really like myself a lot and I enjoy my own company immensely. I prefer being alone, and I think I’ve found a pretty good balance of also enjoying the company of friends, family, and even neighbours, in the last few years. I’m not a loner, by any stretch, and yet I really like hanging out with myself.
When I looked at this card I scoffed. I have had zero interest in dating or creating situations where I might meet a potential relationship. It’s been completely off the radar. I’ve started to wonder recently if I might be somewhere on the asexual spectrum as I no longer feel driven by a libido. Why am I sharing all of this? Because I want others, who might be where I am at, to know that you aren’t alone. It’s okay to not want a boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s okay if you don’t want to settle down or get married. You are here to live your story and no one else’s. It’s okay to break social norms. It’s okay if your dreams and desires change as you do.
As for this New Love card, and what it means to me, it could mean that I meet someone. I can make space for that idea in my heart. Anything is possible. However, I want to be clear that I only want a romance in my life if it’s going to make my relationship with myself even stronger and healthier than ever before. I only want to fall in love with someone else if it brings me closer to my best self. I only want a romantic partner if it means that I have a deeper connection to the world and the people around me. Anything else just isn’t good enough. I welcome all forms of new love into my life, but especially self-love.
What kind of new love do you want in your life?
I love you,